Friday, March 7, 2008

Friday Five: Signs of Spring...

What have you seen/ heard this week that was a :

1. Sign of hope?
My wife was in terrible pain earlier in the week (toothache)! For a few days in a row, I used distant healing to help her and it worked. And quickly!

2. An unexpected word of light in a dark place?
I posted yesterday about the feelings my aunt expressed about my marriage. The word of light came from my mom, not only to my aunt, but to me, as she recounted their conversation.

3. A sign of spring?
Flowers are beginning to bloom all over the place! I think what I wait for is the spring green that decorates the trees, but the flowers foreshadow it, so I know it's coming.

4. Challenging/ surprising?
The vehemence of my aunt's objection to my sexuality and my marriage and her stated wish "not to be confronted with it." Though she didn't say it to me, I'm sure she knew I would hear about it, so I think hers is the most negative response I've gotten--unless you count the two-year silence from one of my friends after I came out to her.

5. Share a hope for the coming week/month/year....
Well, if you've been following along, you might know where I'm headed here ... my hope is to be at peace about my aunt's feelings. Even if I don't go to the family reunion, I am still carrying her words in my energy field and need to release that energy.

Bonus play... a piece of music/ poem guaranteed to cheer you? :)

Thursday, March 6, 2008

The Family Reunion

Sigh. I may have to give this next family reunion a miss!

I have several aunts on my mother's side. The sisters are very close; they visit each other several times a year and talk on the phone at least once a week (I think). They sometimes function as a unit. It's certainly true for me and I imagine true for my cousins, as well: when making big decisions, I occasionally imagine the news traveling by grapevine from one sister to another and consider the possible reactions of each.

So when I came out to my mother, I wondered what her sisters' reactions would be!

A year has gone by and one of my aunts called my mother to express her disapproval and strong feelings about my marriage to Shelly. As my mother recounts it, she doesn't like it, doesn't agree with it and doesn't want to be confronted with it.

When I was growing up, my mother sometimes valued keeping the peace more than she valued standing up for me. But this time, she did! She told her sister that she did not agree and was happy for me because I was happy in a way that I had not been before. She talked about spending time with and liking Shelly. And concluded that they would just have to agree to disagree!

I'm really grateful to have my mother's support!

And disheartened by my aunt's reaction.

I will be giving it some thought, but I don't know that I want to go to the family reunion given the way she feels.

Wednesday, March 5, 2008

Losing a Family Friend

Several things have kept me from posting this week!

Monday was my sister's birthday and I ended up getting stranded at my mother's house when my car broke down. My son and I didn't get back home until after all the celebrating was over. And then, yesterday, we found out that my mother's dog had died!

Jonathan was quite upset about that and we spent much of the day processing those feelings.

What's interesting is that Mickey (the dog) seems to have died of a broken heart. Another dog disappeared recently from the backyard where he usually barked quite happily at Mickey, and Mickey began to "bay at the moon" according to my mother. Then, she hardly wanted to eat, picking at the food my mother brought to her. Less than a week later, she died.

And Jonathan had been told about what was happening and he was the one who intuited that she was sad about Sunny 2's death. He told me yesterday that he also had a feeling Mickey would die, so he told her goodbye a few days ago. My mother did, too.

Jonathan has decided that Mickey and Sunny 2 are playing happily together in heaven.